Date smarter, not harder.

The last time I was single was 20 years ago. And at that age, I was a college kid who preferred the freedom of a bachelor lifestyle until I finally settled down with my college crush. In that time, I had been in 3 back to back relationships, never really dating as there was always someone waiting for her turn and effectively making a very strong effort to capture me as so as my Facebook status stated, "single." But this time around... I'm trying to be a bit more discerning and date around and focus on compatibility.

"Be thankful you're in a relationship, because the dating market is a shit show," warned some of my peers. Having dabbled for 6 months, I found to to be quite the contrary. In my very passive hunt, I found that there are a lot of amazing and quality women out there that I never would have encountered had I not put myself out there on the apps. I had some nice dalliances, and met some awesome women that I've integrated into friend circles. I just haven't met that perfect match just yet.

I'm not your average person. Quite in fact, I can say with 99% certainty that I am the most colorful and dynamic person that most people will meet in their lifetime. I'm certainly not for everyone, nor would I ever expect to be. I've always been told that I have the personality and the golden retriever traits that can make a relationship work with anyone, and that had been the trend of the past, "Oh, you're interested in me? Then lets' be together forever!" And while there is an innocent naivety to the sentimentality, at this stage in life, I'm less interested in making it work with anyone, and more looking for the right someone.

I don't really care for the apps. They are great for the instant gratification generation and people who want to just do the minimal, but that's never been my style. Anything I do, I prefer to do with intention and maximal effort, so I wanted to try something different. I elected to create a fairly comprehensive dating website to give a fairly clear picture of who I am, how I live, what I'm looking for, and what it's like to be in a relationship with me. I call it aggressive vulnerability. After a quick read, you'll have a good sense of whether or not I'm the type of human that you'd like to invest your effort and time in getting to know. You'll see the good and the bad.

Is it unconventional? Absolutely. But I’ve never been interested in performing a curated version of myself. I’d rather be clearly myself and let compatibility do the filtering. Read as much or as little as you’d like. If you’re curious, reach out — maybe we grab a smoothie, take a walk around Lake Eola, and see how conversation feels in real life. I tend to be quick to meet in person as I know that many are better in person communicators, and I've never been interest in the lazy pen pal process. As I said, I'm here with intention.

Who am I?

I’m Zac — occasionally referred to as one of the Orlando cryptids that people tend to notice at events around town due to my… vibrant personality. I live colorfully by design, treating life as an existential canvas that I paint with purpose, beauty, silliness, and meaning, in the hope of giving people something to smile about. My guiding belief is simple: if I can give people something to smile about each day, I’m doing my part to nudge the world in a better direction, one inch at a time.

Professionally, I’ve worked in mental health for over two decades, specializing in behavioral therapeutics, children’s psychiatry, and a wide range of roles across the field — nurse, psychopharmacology researcher, neuropsych research fellow and funding facilitator, director of nursing, director of risk, medical journal ghostwriter and the person friends tend to come to when they need a thoughtful ear or grounded advice.

I didn’t come from privilege, but I was fortunate to be born with what I’ll generously call a hyperfunctional neurodivergence — the kind that comes with a quirky personality, but also an ability to see complex systems with unusual clarity. That perspective allowed me to navigate a path from youthful poverty to an adult life of successful stability. I've been referred to subtle superhero by those who know me.

That said, I’ve never defined myself by my career, but by how I live. I’m an optimistic nihilistic existential absurdist. I don’t believe the universe comes with meaning, which means I’m free to create my own. I chose to live by basic maxims: reduce harm, increase happiness, seek experience, and help others when I can.

The thing that stands out about me more than anything is that I'm relentlessly happy, and it's because I know the secret... happiness isn’t the result of luck or circumstance — it’s a choice and a skill, practiced deliberately through mindfulness, gratitude, curiosity, and humor.

I’m intensely curious and relentlessly playful. I love learning, teaching, and acquiring knowledge as a way to maximize both personal growth and the quality of my life. I’m extremely logical, strategic, and adaptable, while also being deeply emotional, passionate, affectionate, and driven — just highly regulated. I’ve been described as a Vulcan with golden retriever energy.

I’m a self-professed barbarian hippy. I prioritize kindness, compassion, tolerance, and love — but I’m also willing to battle against institutions or individuals who promote harm, hatred, or intolerance under the banner of misguided beliefs.

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What am I looking for in a partner?

I’m looking for someone who doesn’t just exist in life, but actively engages with it — someone who is likewise curious, driven, and interested in growth rather than comfort alone.

Because of how I live, I sometimes attract people who are drawn to the brightness of my world and hope it will make them happy. What I’m actually looking for is someone who has already built her own happiness, emotional stability, and sense of self — and wants a partner to share and amplify that which must come from within. I’m interested in synergy. Relationships are meant to foster growth, achievement, and joy.

I’m seeking someone who can likewise balance both sides of the coin: light nature, silliness, and playfulness are essential, but so are responsibility, accountability, emotional control, and self-awareness.

Like attracts like and I'm not looking to have to play parent, have a trophy wife, or muse placed upon a pedestal. I'm looking for an equal. I'm looking for Valkyrie with whom I can conquer the world. I'm looking for the missing half of a power couple.

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