I didn’t come from the advantages of wealth, but I’m genuinely proud of what I’ve built. I’ve managed to pack more lived experience into a few decades than most people do in a lifetime, and every chapter contributed something useful.
Professionally, I’m a psychiatric hospital director with degrees in nursing and writing, and a background that spans pharmaceutical research, children’s psychiatry, neuropsych research, science funding facilitation, and medical magazine feature writing. Outside of healthcare, I’ve also explored creative and public-facing work as a DJ, actor, and participant in game shows, reality television, and adult entertainment (interpret that as you will.)
I'm most proud of the wealth of close friends who serve as my found family, and my relationship with my brother, and my 2 nephews that I can borrow any time I feel the urge to be the "cool uncle."
My life is not one of excess, but humble, yet fulfilling stability, that allows me to be secure enough to indulge in the silly and colorful life that I want.
While I enjoy what I do, I've never been the type of person who has defined myself by my career. I've never understood how some people have only that single aspect of their lives to talk about.
I define myself more by how I live and the philosophies that guide me. I'm an optimistic, nihilistic, existential, utilitarian, humanistic, hedonistic absurdist. There is no purpose to life. It is a cold uncaring universe. And that's beautiful. Within that vacuum, we are free to determine our own purpose, and in pursuing it, fulfill it.
Mine has always been the purposeful choice to balance both sides of the coin: pursing altruism through small meaningful acts, while also honoring my own hedonistic self-interest in the pursuit of joy and experience.
Happiness is the only thing with intrinsic value, which makes it worth continuously cultivating through perspective, humor, and appreciation.
Resultantly, I’m consistently content — not because life is easy, but because I choose to look toward the light and push back against the things in life that would steal happiness from us.
I am more than the sum of my parts
While I’m happy to offer a comprehensive look at who I am through stories, photos, writing, and the visible highlights of my life, I’m aware that those snapshots can sometimes read like a caricature. What they don’t fully capture are the quieter moments — the nuance, the gentleness, the softness, and the emotional sensitivity that exist between the spectacle.
Beneath all the volume and color is a genuinely compassionate heart that burns with intense fury, and a mind that is curious, attentive, and unwilling to leave any stones unturned.
Politics
I was raised an Evangelical Christian Republican — values I inherited largely by proximity rather than conviction. Even as a child, I found myself questioning the internal inconsistencies and shifting moral frameworks of Christianity. That skepticism eventually led me, in college, to read the Bible critically through a scientific lens, which is where I became an atheist.
Libertarianism served as a transitional phase as I moved away from my upbringing. While I appreciated its emphasis on individual freedom, I ultimately found it too idealistic and disconnected from the practical realities of how systems, incentives, and human behavior actually work.
By temperament, I’ve always leaned liberal. In practice, Democratic candidates tend to earn my vote — not out of tribal loyalty, but because their policies are generally more correct in applied reality than conservative alternatives. That said, my values align most closely with Transhumanist thought: a data-driven, future-oriented framework that prioritizes what can be demonstrated to work, independent of tradition, sentiment, or ideological comfort. It is effectively the ideology that most closely aligns with objective evidence and expertise, which earns my respect.
Across politics, philosophy, and life more broadly, I place my highest value on logic, rationality, empirical evidence, internal consistency, and the scientific method. Feelings matter — but they don’t override reality.
Consumed...
There is no heaven or hell waiting for us later — only what we create, experience, and endure in the present. We get roughly 70–90 years to leave a mark, to reduce harm, and to extract as much meaning and joy as possible from the time we’re given. I’ve never understood the impulse to surrender that limited window to passive mediocrity.
I’m deeply invested in memory. I take photos constantly, not out of vanity, but as preservation. Thirty years from now, when recall softens and details blur, I want tangible anchors — visual triggers that can resurrect the emotions of a life fully lived.
That instinct also explains my love of costuming and spectacle. Making moments slightly ridiculous makes them unforgettable. Absurdity sharpens memory. Color preserves joy. If I’m going to live, I want to remember that I did. (And it doesn't hurt to be the crazy old bastard in the nursing home who can prove that everything he says he did, he did.)
...but Chill
I tend to describe myself as a Type A- personality. I’m enthusiastic, driven, and disdain passivity. I keep a very full and busy schedule to pursue the things that matter to me. Everything I do is with purpose.
However, I say “A-” personality because even though I have that ravenous intensity, my nature is laid back, easy going, and low maintenance. I rarely get stressed. I'm entirely secure in relationships. I don't have any issues with anxiety. I tend to be extremely easy going with low preference. I'm not a jealous type. I forgive naturally and easily, to my own detriment at times. So while I am intense, I'm a very easy-to-be-around type of intensity.
When things go sideways, my instinct isn’t panic, but triage: What’s the actual impact? Will reacting emotionally improve the outcome, or make it worse?
A few close calls with death tend to put things into perspective.
Neurodivergence
So obviously... yeah...
I place very little value on tradition or custom for their own sake. I’m rational, systems-oriented, and direct — with a minimal social filter. At my worst (or best, depending on who you ask), I’ve been compared to a Vulcan: analytical, precise, and largely unmoved by sentiment when facts are at stake.
I strive for objective correctness in all situations. If the evidence contradicts my position, it’s my responsibility to update my understanding accordingly. The upside is that I don’t cling to beliefs out of ego or pride. Present me with a better argument and I’ll pivot immediately. I apologize quickly when I’m wrong and treat course-correction as a strength, not a failure. Adaptability is one of the most reliable predictors of success, and I try to live in a state of continuous refinement.
I’m highly functional, a rapid processor, and naturally suited to problem-solving — which is why I often end up as the resident “smart guy” in my careers. The tradeoff is that the burden of knowledge can sometimes create disconnect with some. I tend to bond most easily with curious, educated peers who enjoy depth and precision in thought.
I don’t always catch sarcasm, subtext, or when someone is messing with me. As result, I am sometimes a bit too trusting when I should be more critical.
Knowledge Drive
Never stop learning. Never stop being curious. Never stop appreciating.
I’ve never been comfortable with “not knowing.” Curiosity is the fuel behind most of my passions, and when something catches my interest, I tend to dive deep until I have a working understanding of it. I’ve always been science-minded, and I’m happiest surrounded by people who enjoy thinking, questioning, and refining ideas together. I love hearing about other people’s interests and areas of expertise. I'm greedy. I want to know what you know. I want to be taught as much as I love to teach.
That’s part of why I enjoy education so much, including my role as a hospital orientation educator. I genuinely enjoy transmitting enthusiasm and helping others sharpen their understanding. I learn as much from teaching as I do from studying.
I've always been a Zac of all trades, master of SOME. If I don’t know something, I’ll usually admit it — then disappear down a research hole and come back with a solid grasp within a day. Curiosity isn’t just a trait for me; it’s a lifestyle.
Sexuality
I think there are 3 types of people in the bedroom:
1. Those who do not enjoy sex.
2. Those who enjoy sex.
3. Those who are sexual beings.
Just as the rest of my life is driven by passion, curiosity, and engagement, so is my sexuality. It’s not something I treat casually or hide behind euphemism. Sexual compatibility matters, and it’s far better to be honest about it early than to discover a fundamental mismatch later.
If you’re intimidated by experience, I’m not the man for you. Sexuality has always been a meaningful part of my identity. That said, I’m also deeply responsible: I prioritize consent, communication, and health, and I have a spotless track record when it comes to STIs and unintended consequences.
I'm not big on labels, but within "the lifestyle," would be defined as a primal, dominant, voracious sensualist. My drive tends to be fairly ravenous and becoming lost in the carnality of passion. Think sexual mindfulness of being present in the moment of emotional connection that sustains demisexuality.
I'm entirely flexible and comfortable with a wide range of relationship structures — monogamous, open, swinging — provided trust is high and communication is clear. While I’m capable of navigating short-term non-monogamy, my long-term goal is singular: a primary partner to grow old with, build with, and prioritize emotionally.
As with everything else in my life, I enjoy growth in this space as well. I’m attentive, communicative, and enthusiastic about helping partners explore, learn, and realize what brings them the most pleasure — together.
If this resonates, you’re welcome to say hello here:
Interests
Hobbies:
Costuming, Leather Crafting, Mycology, VR gaming, AR gaming, Pokemon GO, Fighting Games, Hiking, Disc Golf, Roller Blading, Long Boarding, Theme Parks, Cultural Festivals, Pool Parties, Hosting Social Gatherings, Ren Faires, Political Activism, 420 Movie Nights, D&D, Sewing, Dueling: (Foil , Epee, Saber), Animal Lover, Private Movies, Sustainable Living, Comic Books, Classic Lit, Board Games, Highland Games, Horror, Sci-Fi, Fantasy, Anime, Blogging, DJing, Arcades, Museums, Concerts, Symphonies, Mini Painting,
Fandoms:
Marvel, DC, Harry Potter, Game of Thrones, House of Dragons, Conan, The Good Place, Love Death Robots, Love on the Spectrum, X-Men, Star Wars, Star Trek, Steam Punk, Horror, Godzilla, Philosophy, Invincible, One Punch Man, Delicious in Dungeon, Lord of the Rings, Rings of Power, Dr Who, Death Note, Predator, Babylon 5, Bioshock, Borderlands, Castlevania, Street Fighter, Mortal Kombat, Fallout, Frankenstein, Werewolf, Dracula, Hunger Games, Matrix, 5th Element, Mega Man, Metalocaplyse, Minecraft, Portal, Shakespeare, Spider-Man, Superman, Batman, Transformers, Warcraft, Swing,
Music:
Metal, Ska, Grunge, Punk, Power Metal, Electro-Swing, Big Band, Musicals, Classic Rock, Alternative, Lo-Fi, Jazz, Scores, Symphonic, Justice, They Might Be Giants, Type O Negative, Mike Patton, Mr Bungle, KMFDM, Daft Punk, Savant, The Megas, Protomen, ABBA, Billy Joel, Caravan Palace, Aquabats, Hamilton, Wicked, Ben Folds, Beatles, Sonata Arctica, Dethklok