I’ve always been a bit of an outsider in that I’ve never followed traditional norms and tend to live a life that is a bit eccentric for most vanilla folk. I’ve just always been consumed with how short life really is. We get 70-90 years to experience as much as possible, yet so many people just squander it trudging through the motions instead of appreciating and enjoying it. I go step further and try to make it more memorable by making it ridiculous.
I call myself a Type A- personality. I’m enthusiastic, driven, and ravenous. Life is not easy for anyone; we have the choice to be victims at the mercy of existence, or conquerors who embraces the absurdity of tragedy and decide to success simply to spite nature. My first degree and passion has always been in writing, but professionally I became an Rn and climbed the hospital ladder to become a hospital director who viciously advocates for the best care of my patients. Isay “A-” personality because though I have that productive intensity, my nature is laid back, easy going, and low maintenance. I rarely get stressed. I’m extremely flexible, and forgiving to a fault. In the long run, we’re just insignificant specs of dust in an uncaring cosmos. All our mistakes and victories alike will be forgotten in the blink of an eye. To me, impact is what matters. So if something is insignificant… why worry about it?
I’ve played the roll of rescuer, perhaps too frequently. I’ve been in relationships where I had to be the responsible one, the forgiver, the carrier, the one who looks the other way. I just have no interest in being that any more. I’m at that stage where I’m looking for a true equal. I’m looking for someone who has likewise mastered being both responsible and wild. I’m looking for someone who doesn’t need a partner to make her happy, but instead someone who is already happy and looking for someone to enhance what she has. Likewise, I don’t really have any need for a partner to meet any missing pieces, I’m pretty happy and content. Instead, I want someone for synergy and the combination of influence to enhance what I have.
I’ve always tried to hold myself to a higher standard, and have a track record of smart decisions, and few mistakes. I’m rational and calculating, but also emotional and honest with my feelings, allowing them to flourish when able and in-check when necessary. And when I do make mistakes, I’ve extremely quick to adapt and course correct. For me, being logically correct is more important than sticking to how I feel. If the facts don’t support what I feel, then it’s up to be to alter my understanding to be more in line with what is correct.
I’m enthusiastic about education and the pursuit of knowledge. I consume a lot of educational content in my spare time. I always want to know more. I’m very data driven and science minded. This puts me most in line with the philosophical and political worldviews of Transhumanism, which effectively are determined by what has the most evidence. So from a point of correctness, this means strongly Liberal leaning as these standpoints are better supported. Likewise, I’m an ardent atheist. There really isn’t any wiggle room in my realm of understanding for traditions or superstition. I love intellectual conversation and expanding of ideas. I want a partner with similar knowledge hunger who can teach me about her passions as well.
I work hard and play harder. The house is fully paid off thanks to elbow grease and overtime. It’s a fully automated smart house that is 100% solar powered and sustainable. More importantly, it’s an entertaining paradise for geeks, nerds, and freaks. Costume room, D&D room, stripper pole, sex swings, Sybian, VR den, board games, wet bar, pillow pit and a themed house? Check! There are benefits to being child and pet free. I get to indulge in living to whatever tickles my fancy.
People describe me as charismatic, which I feel is accurate. I’m the type who goes alone to parties knowing only one person, and leaves knowing everyone. Found family is my family, and I enjoy collecting those who add their uniqueness to my world. I’ve never been the drama-kid, but my personality has landed me rolls on multiple reality and game shows simply by being myself. That said, I’m a bit of an outsider, quirky fella. Some people just don’t know what to make of me and can’t tell if I’m genuine, or some sort of parody of myself. I can be a bit absent minded, and oblivious to some things, not picking up on all social cues. It just makes things more fun to figure out.
I am an eternal optimist, who is pretty much always happy go lucky. Being unhappy is a choice. I've aways chosen to be happy. It’s the choice to live and appreciate what we have in the moment. When we think of happiness of something that exists in the future when we have the perfect house / partner / job / pet / wealth… it remains perpetually out of reach. Having come from little, I am just ever thankful for what I have now. My days are spent seeking out the silly and irreverent, laughing when I can and being serious when I must.
In regards to passion, I am a voracious sensualist. There are some who enjoy sex, while for others, it's a lifestyle. So yes, I'm in "The Lifestyle," if you couldn't tell from reading some of my relationship blogs. This means I’m comfortable with advanced sexuality and relationships. I'm carnal and as passionate in bed as I am in life. My drive tends to be higher than most, so I was frequently "outsourced" in past relationships to give my primaries a chance to breath. I’m no stranger to swinging and threesomes in both directions. While I have no bisexual inclinations, I’m entirely comfortable teaming up to pleasure a partner. And so long as trust is high, I have very low jealously. I dislike labels, but find that women who are typically sexually compatible are sexually aggressive women who seek dominant partners who take charge. I'm experienced, and enjoy teaching in the bedroom as I do everywhere else.
And let’s not forget costumes. I think the willingness to get dressed up and silly is a dealbreaker for me. If there is an opportunity to make life more memorable by fancy dress, I’m all for it. My trip to Mecca is the yearly vacation at DragonCon, but I appreciate any events that allow people to joyfully express their imagination: Halloween, and Ren Faires, Highland Games, Spooky, Gasparilla, Megacon, St Patty’s Day etc... I sew, do leather work, foam work, paint, and am self-taught and pretty accomplished quite a few costume working skills.
I’m sure this comes across as arrogant. I’m really not, cocky and confident, but not arrogant. I just wanted to offer a pretty accurate look at whom I am, how I live, what I bring to the relationship, and the compatibility I am seeking in kind. Like attracts like. And the best thing I can do it put all the cards on the table up front so that I don’t waste the time of those who wouldn’t mesh. As time is short, happiness and time are the most valuable things we have.
I’ve attached a link below of my photo album of adventures through life. Am I showing off of? Of course. No one ever attracted a mate by laying low. But more it’s an opportunity to communicate my personality to anyone curious.
If your interest has been piqued, reach out and say hello. I’m always up to grab a glass of wine and chat. Even if we don’t click, I enjoy meeting interesting people.